eat pray love


I was all cozy in my bed reading the July pick for Supermom's Book Club when I read a passage that inspired me to get up and write a blog post.  So, here I am.

Here's what made me get up to write:

"...Americans have an inability to relax into sheer pleasure.  Ours is an entertainment-seeking nation, but not necessarily with everything from porn to theme parks to wars, but that's not exactly the same thing as quiet enjoyment.  Americans work harder and longer and more stressful hours than anyone in the world today."

A few sentences further it reads, "Il bel far niente" meaning, "the beauty of doing nothing".

This is sooooooooo true!  I can speak for myself that I never stop.  I’m always go go go .  Even my mind doesn’t stop, always on the go go go .  I cannot sit still because there is always something to do.  I have never learned to really do nothing.  And if I do accomplish nothing I feel like a total bum because nothing was accomplished during my day. 

It’s a never ending cycle.

I know it’s because I have control issues.  This must be done a certain way.  This has to go here.  No one can do it like I can do it so I just do it. 

Then when I’m not having control issues I’m on the computer wasting time, crocheting something, on my cellphone or trying to keep myself entertained.

Why do we feel that we always have to be entertained?  The same with our kids, they feel that we should entertain them all the time, twenty four hours a day, seven days a week.  I know this to be true because during the days I have two extra limbs.  One is constantly talking and one constantly wants to use me as a trampoline. 

I try to stop thinking and feeling and just be.  Just be in the moment.  Enjoying the crickets chirping, it is chirping right?  I am enjoying watching Sophie the Superdog sleep at my feet and I am most certainly enjoying watching Sex and the City on DVR yet I am compelled to be BUSY typing up this blog post instead of just be-ing.

5 comments:

Emily said...

So true. I think the 'go-go-go' attitude has been heightened in the digital age. I can't even sit and enjoy a movie without doing the dishes or checking my email. If I do try to sit still, I feel like I'm being lazy or wasting time. I really want to learn to let go and do nothing.
I think I might pick up a few self help books. My aunt LOVES the book "Midlife Crash Course" by Gail Feldman- http://www.MidlifeCrashCourse.com
Any other recommendations?

Just Jennifer said...

I read Eat Pray Love a couple year ago and was struck by that part of the book too. It's very true. I TRY to do nothing sometimes, but it really hard!

Supermom said...

Yes, it is really hard but so worth it in the end.

I've been really working on it.

I hope you enjoy doing sometimes.

Michelle :)

Supermom said...

Emily ~ That is so me!!!!!! My husband sent me a cartoon once that said, "Turn off computer and go to bed, check email in bed from cellphone."

That pretty much sums it up.

diannaray said...

I missed this post, so I'm late, lol, because I'm SOSOSOSOSO busy *ironic to the nth degree, no? I'm now going to have to read that book although I suspect the result will be something like this "gee,I wish I could savor and enjoy doing nothing" so I try, and then at the end of doing nothing I'm overwhelmed by my compulsive need to get up and do all the things I just put concentrated effort into NOT doing...oy, vicious cycle I loathe you!! lol....but I AM going to read that book.