Sunday, April 18, 2010

No wonder teens are so obsessed with sex.

Yesterday I was driving to the grocery store to buy birthday supplies and cake making goodies listening to a radio station that I enjoy.  It plays the current top 40 kind of music.  Music that my teenage daughter listens to. 

Then I hear this song that totally makes my jaw drop and I think I may have felt my heart skip a beat!!!!!!

Here, let me type out a bit of the song by Rihannah ~ Rude Boy.
Tonight I'ma let you be the captain
Tonight I'ma let you do your thing, yeah
Tonight I'ma let you be a rider
Giddy-up, giddy-up, giddy-up babe
Tonight I'ma let it be fire
Tonight I'ma let you take me higher
Tonight, baby, we could get it on, yeah, we could get it on, yeah 

Wait, THERE'S MORE!!!

I like the way you touch me there
I like the way you pull my hair
Babe, if I don't feel it I ain't faking, no, no
I like when you tell me 'kiss you there'
I like when you tell me 'move it there'
So giddy-up; time to get it up: you say you a rude boy: show me what you got now
Come here right now

The name of the CD is Rated R and has the "explicit lyrics" sicker ON IT but it was being played on the RADIO STATION!!!!  A radio station that the kids listen to. 

I really just shook my head in disbelief.  When you are a responsible adult I don't care what music you listen to but when you are a very impressionable teen then you don't need to listen to that CRAP!  Seriously!  These are the music stars that our children want to be like.  They have posters of them in their bedrooms.  They dress like them.  They idolize them.  They think the music star can do no wrong.

How can I compete with that??

How can I teach them about sex and drugs when the people that they idolize tell them it's okay?  It's impossible to shelter our kids from everything going on in the world.  The best we can do is teach them right from wrong at home and hope that in a situation that they will make the right decision.

I just really think that the pop stars need to think about how their music may be understood by an impressionable teenager.  Let parents teach their kids about sex and drugs.  Instead they glorify it!  Make it sound so awesomely hip and cool.  That everyone's doing it.  Of course they are!  It's how society is making it a norm. 

Out of curiosity I Googled "teenage pregnancy rate".

Are you ready for what I found?  I was NOT!

The United States has the highest teen pregnancy rate in the industrialized world. The Center for Disease control says that one-third of girls get pregnant before the age of 20. Teenpregnancy.org, a site managed by the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy, states that there are "750,000 teen pregnancies annually. Eight in ten of these pregnancies are unintended and 81 percent are to unmarried teens."

750,000 teen pregnancies ANNUALLY.  750,000! ! !
I don't even know what else to type now. 

These are the musical pop stars that our kids listen to and idolize.

8 comments:

Anna said...

Four things:
1) The single greatest influencer of a child's values are active and involved parents. You, Barry and your ex are excellent parents.
2) I'd be interested to know what percentage of those teenagers with unintended pregnancies had little or no sex education and were practicing abstinence pledges.
3) Teens are obssessed with sex in large part due to raging hormones that urge them mate and humans are hardwired for this. It is important to resist bodily urges, but I'm sure we all remember how powerful those urges can be.
4) Censorship is a very touchy subject. It was a battle to get the R rating and "explicit lyrics" sticker onto the album cover. We can always turn the radio off if we don't like the music. People spout hate out of their mouth all the time and their speech is protected, so why can't someone sing about how they like to be physically loved?

Supermom said...

Anna Banana ~

1. Yes, I know involved parents make a difference. But even the best parent cannot be heard by a child. We can live by the best standards, live the right way and love unconditionally and still our child will listen to what their friends may tell them or idolize a trashy music singer. Even H finds it hard to believe I was a teenage girl and that I know nothing on the matter at times.

2. Considering sex ed is taught is some fashion in elementary school I'm sure they all have had it. I remember sitting in H's 5th grade class pregnant with Lil O hearing about the changes our bodies go through, maxi pads, tampons and sex. Just lovely. Then later on they visit The Health Adventure for another sex ed class then there are several on school campus. Been there done that and didn't even get a coffee mug.

3. Yeah yeah they have hormones. I also know sex is on the TV 24 hours a day. TV shows show teens having sex. Look at "The Secret Life of the American Teenager", showing these kids in big houses with their artificial nails and sports cars. Living at home with their parents and their baby blah blah blah. That's not the real world people are living in. Music videos are all about sex as well. People like Jamie Lynn Spears gets pregnant at 16 following after big sisters life I'm sure. Then there's even reality shows called "16 and Pregnant" and "Teen Mom". It really wants me to smack some kids upside the head. Seriously. I won't even get started on Tiger Woods as a role model for boys.

4. Yeah, we can turn the radio off. An adult would but I'd bet money a teen wouldn't. I bet 98% of teens probably already know the lyrics. Sure, they can sing about wanting physical love but when they sing about their dick getting hard and what they want to do with it, it's a bit much.

Just my opinion....

Heather Nicole said...

I actually just came from a women's conference this weekend that dealt with how feminism in the U.S. has helped bring out so much open sex in our society. I know most people think oh YEAH feminism! Girl power! however, I think many would be shocked to know what a negative impact those ideas have had on society. Ok i got off on a tangent. My point was that decency, modesty, and virtue has flown out the window. many parents are clueless as to why...duh....exactly what you said...look at our music, tv, and what we let our kids wear. of course all those short shorts and belly shirts provoke sexual thoughts to men and for some reason teen girls think that is a good thing! loved this post Supermom...it is a very big issue!

Anonymous said...

If tv/music/actors/singers etc... are influencing teens that much then our world is in a sorry state. Teach your kids to think for themselves and they will be fine. Teenagers are obsessed with sex due to hormones and curiousity, it has nothing to do with what they listen too. Check the teen pregnancy rates in countries where sex is more widely accepted and talked about, I bet they are much lower than they are here!

Monica said...

That blows my mind!!! Their friend push them to try things too. Esp if they get with the wrong crowd!!!

H said...

i have great parents. i have some of tht cd on my ipod. no lie. mom im sorry. i didnt rele listen to tht song. anna i disapree i hav a lot of songs on my ipod tht prob hav sex involved. this has little to do with my parents.

Supermom said...

Heather ~

Oh, I totally agree!! Music, TV and Clothes are a big part! I cringe when I see girls, AND THEY ARE JUST GIRLS!!!!, wearing things that barely cover their body. What happened to modesty????

Society has made it okay!!!!


Anonymous ~ If tv/music/actors/singers etc... are influencing teens that much then our world is in a sorry state.

Well, I hate to tell you this but we are in a sorry state then. TV/music/actors/singers and etc have been influencing the decisions of people for decades. How we dress. How we wear our hair. What we listen to. What we watch.

Just ask your grandmother about her favorite actress and if she wore her hair after them. Or bought a dress like one they may have worn.

Supermom said...

Oh, goodie my teenager has joined in.

i have great parents. i have some of tht cd on my ipod. no lie. mom im sorry. i didnt rele listen to tht song. anna i disapree i hav a lot of songs on my ipod tht prob hav sex involved. this has little to do with my parents.

Yes, you do have great parents. :) We love you unconditionally and you know this.

I knew you did because you are a normal teenager and it's what is available to you!

Just know I'd kick you butt all over town if you did something STUPID!! Right???

I love you,
Mommy

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