Have sex every single day for a month?

What drugs are you smoking????  That would be the question I would ask the person doing the promising.  I know it was mine when I read this article about this woman giving her husband sex every day for a month for his birthday.  Don't even get me started on the woman who wrote the book about promising her husband sex every day for a year! 

Don't get me wrong.  I love sex.  I love sex with Superdad.  Sex is good.  But I'm not going to put myself in a situation to make love like it's a chore or something I have to do so I don't break a promise.  If you read the story I linked above you will find out that some days it was a chore and they just went through the motions.  I don't want sex that way.  I want sex to be passionate and something we both want at the same time.

I know that I could put more of an effort into having more sex with Superdad.  Sure, I could make more time.  I just know after taking care of kids all day, cooking, cleaning and such when I go to bed all I think about is sleep.  I'm guilty of not making more time for sex with Superdad..

Also, the couple above didn't have children so they were able to be more free about it.  It's different when there are little people wandering around the house.  Having a child walk in during foreplay is a mood killer!  I also think they have a special radar when it comes to parents having alone time together.  I know that we've tried to sneak to our bedroom and a few minutes later become the center of attention with the kids. 

Anyway, I just don't think you should make these sorts of promises.  Giving your husband sex every day for a month or a year.  I think if you want sex then have sex.  Don't take the fun out of it by making it a chore.  You can promise each other to make more time for each other but you don't have to stipulate that sex has to be involved. 

Okay, let's talk about this!  I'm ready for the comments.

Comments

Melinda said…
If I could promise once a week, I'd be patting myself on the back!
Supermom said…
ME TOOOO!!!! Once a week would be an improvement.
Red Neck Diva said…
Ladies i can't complaine here scouts honer i lie you not i have made love to my husband yes i mean have sex with my husband at least three time a week for the last 4 1/2 years. I don't know how to explane the fact that we always manage to find a moment to be together. I am still amazed but i thank god.
I did this once, the hubby and i had sex everyday for a month straight, it was tons of fun and excitting. but then i got pregnant because of it. :) so now that i want to have another baby i am doing the same thing again and this time it is more of a challange and i am way more exhausted. I gave up after a week! It is way to exhausting to try and have sex everyday after life with kids.
Keshia said…
Once a week would be an improvement for us, too. And I'm 19 and he's 20. I completely agree though. That kind of promise makes it a chore(not that my husband would mind that). But I would.
seriously!? you lost me when you said 'gave' it to him - I would have sex 3 times a day - why is the convo always 'giving' a man sex - im lost - my sexual experiences are all about him giving me what i want and i cant get enough..feel free to throw the 'w' word around now but i dont care - Im still amazed that a person can make another person feel so good with only their body! I can't get enough and its been that way since I was...well 15 - good thing I married young...im just saying! HA!
Supermom said…
WTG Renee!!

I was just quoting the story about that woman promising her husband sex every day for a year.

When I have sex it is to satisfy myself. And him of course. If I don't want to have sex, I don't. Not even to please him.

I just don't think women should go around promising sex like that. Have sex because you are hot and horny. Right?
I absolutely agree! You know - Im all about doing what you want and not doing what you dont! When I said Convo I was generalizing the typical convo that I hear when women talk about sex - not about your post - I should've clarified ;) - XOXO
I understand both views on this. yes it could be considered a chore.. and on the other hand it could be considered as a new expirence.

I have made lil promises like that {but I would like to keep them to the privacy of me and the hubbs} it didn't always make it to the month mark, but we had fun trying!
Heather Nicole said…
ok so i am thinking woo hoo b/c most any week we beat the one time a week record. we only have one kid though so who knows after #2. i saw the couple that did it everyday for a year on tv one time. they said it was very stressful. i agree...no stress during sex!!! don't they say women reach their sexual peak in their 30s??? when we were trying to conceive our daughter i totally had him stressed...sex as a chore = boo!! i promised not to do that with him this time:-)
Heather Nicole said…
oh and we actually did make the 1 month promise one time. it lasted about 3 days....
Danielle Franklin said…
yea i dont agree with the promises lol only have sex that much if you want to i guess lol i cant remember if i've ever tried doing it that much. Sounds like you'd be sore as hell and not be able to walk for a month afterwards lol