I blogged about the purity ring idea and wondered if anyone had a child wearing one. I got one response. A very good response. So good that I want to share it with you.
Purity Rings. I think that it is less about the ring itself, but the imagined protection that comes with it. Some parents don't feel that quality sexual education is necessary, because...my kid promised and wears the ring...she/he won't need to know those things. I think this is a problem.
I have read that teens who pledge virginity do usually wait longer than their peers to have sex, but because they are unprepared, are more likely to have unprotected sex.
My motto is educate and talk, often and openly with your teen. Making sure that they understand that you are there for them anytime they have a question.
Education plus a pledge/ring might be a great combo.
Kelly--Mom of a nineteen year old daughter.
I totally agree with you. Educate your children about sex. Sex has become more of a topic at our house since H likes to watch The Secret Life of the American Teenager. We talk about the show. If you aren't familiar with it, let me catch you up. Amy is 15 and had sex once at band camp. She is pregnant. The guy she slept with has issues and not a good guy. Blah Blah. So now Amy has to decide to keep the baby or give it up for adoption. When I watch this show with H I am able to say, "Life isn't like that" or other various comments. Having sex just one time can change your life FOREVER!!! I want this drilled in her head!!!
Now H is a wonderful bright young woman. She is active in church. She goes to GA Camp every summer. She knows RIGHT from WRONG. We talk talk and talk to her about sex. About life. About everything.
I mentioned getting H the purity ring. True Love Waits. We think it's a great idea. We are already being totally honest with H. She knows we are there for her. She knows that she can talk to us about A N Y T H I N G!! I am not living some delusional world thinking the ring will keep her from having sex. Being honest with her, talking with her and her knowing about sex will keep her from having it at a young age.
I am going next week to buy her the ring. She has already picked one out that she likes. There is a contract that comes with it. I am very proud of H wanting to wear this ring to let everyone know that True Love Waits.