I don't where to start this blog post. I guess with some back story about H's boyfriend. His mom and step-dad are together one week, broken up the next, back together, one's moving out the next week and so on and on. I won't even bring up the fact that I think his step-dad is abusive.
Okay, so last week the BF calls H and upsets her. Things will be going GOOD for them and then he'll bring something up to cause conflict.
HISTORY ALMOST ALWAYS REPEATS ITSELF.
I explain to H that it's the example he is being taught at home. I told her that it would probably not change. I am always honest with H because she needs that. I don't sugar coat things.
So, last night I'm in bed and I hear H on the phone like pleading her case, begging for mercy type thing. It angered me. I knew it was the BF starting HIS stuff again. So, I get up and tell H to get off the phone. When she gets off TEN minutes later I follow her into her bedroom.
She doesn't want to talk to me about it but I am pretty persistent. Like I'm not leaving this room until you talk and make you life miserable until then. Apparently she talked to another guy. To which I said, "BIG DEAL!!!!! You're 15!!!! You're supposed to enjoy these teenage years."
"Last time I checked you two aren't married and the only people you are supposed to explain yourself to is your PARENTS. Last time I checked HE wasn't one of those."
"HOW MUCH LONGER ARE YOU GOING TO PUT UP WITH THIS?!??!?"
At this point I just wanted to scream. I always tell H that I love her and want what is best for her.
SIGH!!! Did I do okay? Should I have said those things? I just don't want some TWIT jerking her around WEEK AFTER WEEK. Makes me want to pop him up side his head! Not hard, just to get his attention that I have my eye on him.
So, she ended the conversation with, "Can you please leave. I want to go to bed."