While I was on vacation sitting on a warm beach I was emailed by a lovely woman worried about getting her baby out of the bed. To which I immediately emailed her back giving her my opinion because she did in fact ask for it.
My opinion goes like this:
I have shared the bed with all FOUR of my children. Baby #4 has never known another bed and still sleeps with us. She is 18 months old. Really, I don't see the big deal. They are babies for such a short time, why not enjoy this extra special time with them??? I promised her that she wouldn't have a teenage son STILL sleeping in the bed with her!!!
H slept with us for four years, until B came along. She adjusted well to her brand new big girl bed in her bedroom. I'd rub her back and play music for her. After a week or so there was no problem.
B had a different opinion. He liked having his own space. He would wiggle and wiggle until I put him in the bassinet which was beside the bed. He'd be out like a light then.
Lil O slept with us even after Baby M came home from the hospital. It was interesting having four people in our queen size bed. We loved every minute of it though! Lil O's toddler bed is in our room so she adjusted well with sleeping in it. We explained that Baby M needed to breastfeed and that the bed was so crowded. She took it like a champ. She will still get up and snuggle with us but she sleeps in her bed during the night.
Baby M at one week old.
All three of my kids had adjusted well with leaving the family bed. I am the one that took it hard. Well, Superdad did tooo. Baby M still sleeps with us so trust me, we enjoy every minute of it!
I get asked about "methods" out there. Let me say, "I don't believe in any method. I follow my mommy instinct!"
After giving this mommy my advice weeks ago I get this comment on Supermom's Facebook Page:
Thank you so much for your advice recently on co-sleeping. After your reassurance that I will not have my 18 year old son sleeping between my husband and I, I have been able to just enjoy being close to my baby and not so worried about if I will ever... get him in his bed! So thank you, thank you, thank you!!!I am so glad I was able to help. HAPPY FAMILY BED SHARING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!