I would like someone to give me an intelligent answer for this question! The past few days have been rough here in the Supermom house.
It started Sunday night. The perfect end to my Mother's Day! ~sarcasm~
I have a dry erase board calendar in the kitchen for the month. Everything is written on the calendar. E V E R Y T H I N G ! ! !
I noticed that H had penciled TWO events in. I also noticed it was a weekend she SHOULD go visit with her dad since she decided to live here full time! I ask her if she's talked to her dad about what she wants to do since she would be at his house that certain weekend. This didn't amuse her to say the least.
I was trying to tell her that we could work it out and do all that she needed to do. Go to the party and spend time with her dad. She wouldn't hear any of it and started screaming at me. This is turn made me scream back!! Screaming is a vicious cycle!!! I hate it!!!!! GRRRRRRRRRRR!
So she stomps off to her room to slam the door. She is a door slammer. I say, "THERE IS NO TV, COMPUTER OR PHONE UNTIL WE FINISH THIS!!!!!!!!!!" Then I hear SLAM!!!!!!
I was upset because I feel like DAMNED if you do and DAMNED if you don't. I tried to talk to her like the adult SHE THINKS she is and she wanted no part of that.
Soooo, yesterday I get her from school. She mentions that the party was canceled for this weekend and will be next weekend. I was totally over it and kind of shrug with a whatever attitude.
I had a very trying day yesterday and was in no mood to argue with a 14 year old. A dear friend of mine, scratch that, MY BEST FRIEND was in a car accident and it upset me tremendously!!! I was upset and nervous and crying over thinking my friend was hurt. Not to mention that her daughter was in the car as well. I had two other friends supporting me, one the phone and one the computer. They were my life line so I didn't drown so to speak! Thank you ladies. You know who you are!
Anyway.... my friend and her daughter are fine!! I realized how much they mean to me in such a short time!!!! ~Supermom is going to get sappy, so let's move on.~
Plus, I was dealing with another online issue that isn't worth bringing up. I just know my plate was full yesterday and fighting with H wouldn't be on the short list!!!
Sooo, I am running around trying to get my house work finished since the day was shot to hell. The phone rings. It's for H. I tell her to get off the phone.
BUT I TOLD YOU I WAS SORRRYYYY!!!!!!!!!!
You did??? I only remember you telling me that the party was moved.
I tell hormonal teenager, "NO PHONE OR COMPUTER FOR TODAY!!!" I think she was getting off easy.
This brings on her wanting to argue. I talked to her in a very calm matter. I said, "I am not going to talk about this again. I tried to talk to you last night and you wouldn't listen."
I stood firm about no phone or computer. She was begging me to let her use the phone. I was proud of myself. She was crying and such. She only told me she was sorry because she thought I would give her the phone back. WRONG!!!
I just ignored it and started making some mac & cheese. She kept standing in the kitchen door watching me. I was going to walk past her to unlock the door because Superdad was home. SHE ACTUALLY HAD THE NERVE TO TRY AND BLOCK ME. OMG. I was in shock BUT I kept my cool.
She mentioned that she was just going to get the phone and use it anyway.
I dare you was my response.
To make a terribly long story short. She went on a hunger strike and wouldn't take dinner from me. She avoided me at all costs last night.
I was proud that I kept my cool. I didn't raise my voice. I acted like the adult that I am.
I am tired of trying to "guilt" her into spending time at her dads. He deserves HER making time to visit him. Should I just leave it alone and let her plan when she goes???? He loves her and was terribly hurt when she decided to live here full time and I think she owes it to him to make the effort to see him more!!! I can only do so much!
As for her AWFUL behavior. How do I handle that? Punish her more? Show her who is in fact BOSS?!?! What??????? Opinions would be awesome here.