Cleaning and Sex. Maybe not in that order though.

It was fun having those Best of 2008 scheduled to post this week. It has given me a sort of freedom. I haven't been stressing to come up with these mind blowing posts for you. Well, today I want to start a great conversation with you lovely ladies that read my blog. Earlier I posted an "Ask Supermom" and was given two very great wonderful questions. I took the time yesterday to respond to them. The more I thought about them the more I wanted to share them with you.

K-here's my questions and the first is more general and the second may be too personal for you to answer (I'll understand if you skip the 2nd but you did say we could ask anything right?!?!

1-how do you stay organized and clean your house and keep up w/ laundry w/ 4 children?

2-and did I mention this one is quite personal...on average how often do you and your husband have sex? My husband and I just talked about this last night-our sex life is pathetic but I've just lost all desire lately...being home w/ a 5 year old and 2 year old by the end of the day I am just exhausted and the last thing on my mind is sex. Do other stay at home moms deal w/ this or should I get checked out by a professional??? :)

Weren't those great questions to ask Supermom??? I thought so.

Here is my response to how I keep my house running and organized.

Well, for me once you get organized the rest is upkeep. I always tell my kids when things are laying around, "Give it a home, make it happy". Everything should have a place and that's where it goes. If you want my advice I would suggest taking the time to organize the house. Give everything a home. Once you have done that, the hard part is over.

Every day I do a 10 minute tidy. Sometimes it is 10 minutes and sometimes it is more. Usually before bed I pick up and put everything where it goes. There is no way I could go to bed with toys all over the place or a messy kitchen.

I know it may seen daunting to do it all at once but believe me, once you have it together it really is upkeep from then on. I have no problem giving to Goodwill. I once read an article about how Americans believe in KEEPING EVERY FREAKING THING!! Trust me, you don't have to keep everything that you once touched!!! I don't do that and I love that about me. Does that make me not a sentimental woman? NO!! I keep things that have emotional value. Pictures from the kids. Things they have given me. Some schoolwork. What I didn't keep were the things that clutter the house and my emotions!

Moving on to my next answer about my sex life. Or the lack of my having one.

Well, since having baby number 4 our sex life isn't like it used to be. Soooo not like it used to be. It's hard to balance life, kids and sex. Then there is the guilt.

Yes, I miss sex. Not as much as Superdad but I still miss our quiet time.

I think for us we have to set a date and stick to it.

DAMN THAT WOMAN WHO GAVE HER HUSBAND SEX EVERY DAY FOR A YEAR FOR HIS BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!!

It isn't as morbid as it sounds but setting a date for sex might be a good start. Even if it's only a quickie. Which would be the case with all the kids in the house.

I know exactly what you mean. Being exhausted. It sucks the life out of you and sex is the last thing on your mind. After being home with the kids. Being sucked on. Crawled all over. The last thing you want is your husband doing the above. It's okay to feel that way BTW. Sex isn't the only way to show your spouse you love them. How about holding each other in bed without strings attached? How about a morning shower before he goes to work? I have thought about doing that with my husband but once I get up the baby wakes up. Your kids are older so you could get away with it better than I could.

I don't think a professional is needed IMPO. I think talking to each other and knowing that it's okay to feel that way is the key.

Just think the kids will be older and you'll be doing it like rabbits before you know it!! That's what I hope for anyway.

Did that help any? Perhaps I should turn this into a blog post question to see how other people feel?????

So here I am turning to subject to my readers. Other moms who take care of the children, run a house, work outside the home and try to have some sort of sex life with their partner. Are you able to talk to your spouse about sex? Does it cause friction between you two? How do you handle it? Do you give in so they will hush? Just insert your opinion to the above or bring something else to the table in my comment section.

I know this is a topic that everyone faces! Not just a select few.

Let's talk about sex, baby
Let's talk about you and me
Let's talk about all the good things
And the bad things that may be
Let's talk about sex
Let's talk about sex
Let's talk about sex
Let's talk about sex